RESILIENSI DALAM PERNIKAHAN: PEREMPUAN DENGAN PASANGAN PETER PAN SYNDROME

Triyani Sutarjo* -  Universitas Semarang Indonesia, Indonesia
Shinta Pratiwi -  Universitas Semarang, Indonesia
Mulya Virgonita Iswindari -  Universitas Semarang, Indonesia
DOI : 10.33024/jpm.v7i2.17119

Abstrak

Pernikahan adalah ikatan legal dan resmi antara dua individu. Menurut hukum, berbagai hak dan kewajiban pasangan diatur melalui pernikahan. Istri memiliki hak dan kewajiban yang sama seperti suami. Namun perempuan dengan pasangan Peter Pan Syndrome mengalami tekanan emosi berkepanjangan dan berdampak pada diri sendiri, anak dan pernikahan. Untuk mencegah pernikahan dalam situasi seperti ini, dibutuhkan pendekatan khusus agar terbentuk resiliensi. Tujuan penelitian adalah untuk mengeksplorasi resiliensi perempuan yang menikah dengan pasangan yang memiliki Peter Pan Syndrome Penelitian ini menggunakan pendekatan kualitatif yang menggunakan wawancara dan pengisian kuesioner. Jumlah peserta yang diambil melalui wawancara dan kuesioner adalah empat belas orang. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa alasan utama perempuan dengan pasangan PPS mempertahankan pernikahan adalah pertimbangan anak. Mereka percaya bahwa menerima situasi sebagai takdir atau nasib. Perempuan lebih banyak menekan emosi dalam menjalani kehidupan, yang berdampak pada kesehatan mental, kemajuan pertumbuhan dan perkembangan anak yang kurang memuaskan. Implikasi penelitian ini diharapkan dapat memberikan wawasan baru dalam upaya memahami dinamika pernikahan yang melibatkan Peter Pan Syndrome dan strategi resiliensi yang dapat diterapkan dan memberikan implikasi praktis yang signifikan bagi konselor pernikahan, psikolog, dan praktisi kesehatan mental dalam membantu pasangan yang menghadapi tantangan serupa.

 

Kata Kunci: Resiliensi, Pernikahan, Peter Pan Syndrome, Perempuan

 

Abstract

Marriage is a legal and official bond between two individuals. According to law, various rights and obligations of partners are regulated through marriage. Wives have the same rights and obligations as husbands. However, women with Peter Pan Syndrome partners experience prolonged emotional stress and this has an impact on themselves, their children and their marriage. To prevent marriage in situations like this, a special approach is needed to build resilience. The aim of the research is to find out how women handle PPS partners so that they can survive. This research uses a qualitative approach using interviews and filling out questionnaires. The number of participants taken through interviews and questionnaires was fourteen people. The research results show that the main reason why women with PPS partners maintain their marriage is consideration of children. They believe that accepting situations as destiny or fate. Women suppress more emotions in living their lives, which has an impact on mental health, unsatisfactory growth and development of children. The implications of this research are expected to provide new insights in efforts to understand the dynamics of marriage involving Peter Pan Syndrome and the resilience strategies that can be applied.

 

Keywords: Resilience, Marriage, Peter Pan Syndrome, Women

Keywords : Resiliensi Pernikahan , Peterpan Syndrome, Perempuan

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